What Things Should I Say To Help Get Back With My Ex?

Getting dumped hurts, and losing someone you really love hurts more. But before you let them go, learn exactly what you can say and do to keep your break from becoming a permanent breakup.

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"How do I make my ex want me back?" - it's the single most commonly-asked question after an unwanted breakup. Ask ten thousand people and you'll get ten thousand answers, that's how many different approaches there are to getting your ex back.

You'd be surprised at how many people don't even ask the question, however. These people approach their breakup head-on, forcing themselves on an ex boyfriend or girlfriend and ramming themselves down their throats. This never works, an ex who breaks up with you will always resent immediate contact. The more you chase after your ex boyfriend or girlfriend, the more they want to be left alone.

Right now, it's probably painfully obvious (to everyone) that you want your ex back, and that you'd do "anything" to get them. But the people who successfully reverse their breakup realize that getting your ex to want you back always comes first... way before your own priorities.

Creating a Situation Where Your Ex is Interested in You Again

So what do you do? What can you say? If you're not supposed to contact your ex, how can you convince them to take you back?

The trick here is to slow down, to go away, and to re-make yourself into the person your ex once fell in love with... all at the same time. Your goal should be to become someone your ex would be happy to date again, and this can be accomplished by looking back at the beginning of your romance and really examining the way you looked, acted, and spoke to your ex boyfriend or girlfriend.

Simultaneously, you also need to eliminate your current need to get your ex back. If your ex suspects you really still want them, their guard will be up. They'll also avoid you, and it will be more difficult to gain their respect.

Instead, you need to be carefree. Nonchalant. Totally disinterested and detached when it comes to your ex. You need to get them to start pursing you, and this is a lot easier that you might think it is.

Things To Say To Get Your Ex Boyfriend or Girlfriend Back

During or soon after the breakup, you need to tell you ex:

"Yeah, you're right. Things between us went from bad to worse, and I definitely agree with you - we need to go our separate ways."

Not only does this establish your independence (and future non-reliance on your ex), but it puts you back in some semblance of control. Your ex starts feeling counter-rejected, and this is a good thing if you're trying to get them back.

After some time apart, your ex will miss and think about you. Leaving them alone is the only right move. And when your ex calls you due to being lonely and without you, you say:

"Listen, right now is a bad time and I've really got to run.
Sorry. I'll call you another time, okay?"

Then hang up, go out, and don't even call them back. By not chasing your ex to the point where you're not even returning their calls, you're reversing the roles and seizing back control over the breakup... and over what happens next.

If your ex sends you a text-message, you delete it. If another one comes, your turn off your phone. The last thing you should do is respond to your ex and play that game. If they really want to talk to you, make your ex call you on the phone. If they really want to see you, make them have to come by. Don't play back and forth text-message games, and the same thing goes for email.

There are lots of other things you can say that will help get back with an ex boyfriend or girlfriend, as long as you have a complete step by step plan. You can't operate without a plan, and you can't just pick up the phone and "wing it"... not without failing miserably and making things worse than they were before.

Repairing your broken relationship is all about being proactive, not reactive. No matter what stage of the breakup you're at right now, there are ways of pushing past roadblocks and breaking down your ex's defenses... as long as you know the right reversal techniques and reconnection methods.

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